A friend asked that I say a few words on this her wonderful wedding day. She asked twelve hours ago, can you believe… that I summon my muse to intercede…
My muse first laughed, and then scoffed at me: "surely you jest! Something so fine would require a year for you to combine": there is the bridegroom’s gentle calm against the bride’s passion and storm. there’s the settled strength and unwavering devotion flavored with a hint of the devil may care that Javier, the groom, brings to this match. and Pam, the whirlwind, the effervescent bride, oh, she with the shining eyes and a smile to catch, the wit to capture and the will to wring from life the joy each day can bring.
"Oh, what could I say or do in a day?" Spontaneous thinking on a wedding so true to the nature of the two who will be bound; so we gather at BJ’s with music and mirth. What better place to help us all share in their fun and joy and laughter aplenty.
Pam and Javier, there will never be a wedding to top what you do on this day. a wedding of the century---unlike any other… for who would think I could make something up— a bit of nonsense and this and that— Now to the food, the music, the drinks! May all flow together as the two of you do.
To Pam and Javier, by Lee Meitzen Grue
What can I say about love that hasn't already been said: That sometimes it takes a long time to know it's love. That sometimes the thunderbolt you think struck you was just a distant rumbling that promises rain but passes. That youth has a hard time recognizing the real thing, but first love is so strong it feels good but hurts bad. That sometimes life is too strong and love doesn't survive.
That friends don't recognize it for fear of losing you. That family doesn't always approve of your choice. That books, movies, songs and poems have a hard time showing, writing, or singing about it but try and try.
That's when we see it--really see it--in people we really care about. We rejoice for them and with them and cry, "Bravo, and let's get on with the wedding!"